Only Love is Real
This ACIM Blog Post is Written by Rev. Myron Jones
Love Is the Awareness of Perfect Oneness and Only Love Is Real
There is nothing outside you.
That is what you must ultimately learn, for it is the realization that the Kingdom of Heaven is restored to you. For God created only this, and He did not depart from it nor leave it separate from Himself. The Kingdom of Heaven is the dwelling place of the Son of God, who left not his Father and dwells not apart from Him. Heaven is not a place nor a condition. It is merely an awareness of perfect Oneness, and the knowledge that there is nothing else; nothing outside this Oneness, and nothing else within.
Love is another name for God and another name for our Self.
What else is there to learn but this? However, to really understand that love is real, it is important to understand, first, what love is not.
When I say that I love my children, and I use the word love in the highest form I can, I mean that the Love that I am is being extended to my children.
However, coming from the ego mind it might mean that I am proud of their story and how they live it.
It could mean they make me look good with their story as if it is proof that I am a good mother. If I love for any of these reasons, the love is not stable.
It might turn to something else if their story takes a turn that I don’t like.
To be real love there must be no ulterior motives, no conditions, no exceptions.
What if they turn on me and decide that I am the reason for their failures?
What if they don’t love me back?
What if they come around only when I have something they want?
What if they are rude and disrespectful to me?
Would the love I felt be the same?
If love from me needed nothing from the beloved and never wavered according to circumstances, then that love is real.
Now, can I extend that love to everyone and everything?
Because love does not vary according to the object on which it is extended. It does not limit itself in that way.
If it is accorded value for only certain people, places and things, then it is not love.
Love is Universal in nature, it is like the sun that shines on all without regard. If I know myself as Love and only Love, then it would not be possible for me to do anything but love. Love would extend from me naturally and without ceasing, shining on everything equally.
I want to be the love that I am. And what a silly sentence that is! How could I be anything other than what I am? What I mean by that sentence is that I want to stop pretending to be something else. The only way that I know to do this is to stay aware of my thoughts and feelings so that I know when I am choosing to act as if I were something other than love. When I notice this is happening, I know how to get help.
As Jesus says in the Course:
The Holy Spirit will help you reinterpret everything that you perceive as fearful, and teach you that only what is loving is true. T-5.IV.1:3
I do this often and I am beginning to remember I am Love.
This is my only goal because not knowing my Self is the only problem.
My Self is part of God. My Self is pure Love. All that I have pretended to be is obscuring that Self, but it has not changed my Self and is not preventing me from finding that memory.
Here is what I do to regain my memory.
I begin every day of my life with God.
I spend time studying and writing and meditating on knowing my Self which is knowing God. The sustained and daily meditation is new.
I have always used writing to meditate but while that is helpful, it is not the same as meditation.
In meditation, I am doing my best to sink below thoughts and seek my Self and then abide there for a while. I am in the learning phase, but I am already making progress. I am beginning to enjoy and look forward to this meditation. I spend the rest of the day doing whatever needs to be done but doing it with an awareness of Self.
I may not be able to live from Self yet, but I can consistently remember that I am Self and not self. I question my thoughts and actions as to what part of my mind is involved. I can ask myself, “What would Love do?” I can change my mind when the effects of my thoughts and beliefs are not loving in nature.
This practice coupled with the meditation is making a difference.
One day, I will shift from trying to live from the Self to simply doing it.
In the correction phase, I remember this from the Course:
Be very firm with yourself in this, and keep yourself fully aware that the undoing process, which does not come from you, is nevertheless with you because God placed it there.
I cannot help but succeed at undoing the ego mind because the process for doing so was given me by God. It is in my mind where it is always available to me. The words and ideas of it vary according to need, but the essence remains the same. I recognize that I have made a wrong decision and that I am ready to be corrected.
Here is my favorite process:
It can be found in the last paragraph in Chapter 5. This is the decision for God and for Self.
Say this to yourself as sincerely as you can, remembering that the Holy Spirit will respond fully to your slightest invitation:
I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace. I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise. I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace. I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him. I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God for me.
Part of removing all that obstructs the awareness of Love’s presence is in accepting that we are whole.
Here is something Jesus says about wholeness
Creation is the holy Son of God, for in creation is His Will complete in every aspect, making every part container of the whole. W-p11.3:2-3
I cannot leave anyone out of my definition of myself if I want to remember my Self. We are holographic in nature. We seem to have shattered this one Self, making many little selves that seem separate from each other, and yet, each of these seeming separate parts contains the whole. Jesus is uncompromising when he says that I cannot know my wholeness until I see it everywhere.
In T-9.VI.4, we are told this:
Wholeness is indivisible, but you cannot learn of your wholeness until you see it everywhere.”
Again, Jesus is uncompromising. We cannot leave anyone out of our wholeness and still know our wholeness. There is no justification for a grievance that is going to overcome this fact. I cannot hold one person or one situation involving that person outside forgiveness and know my wholeness.
I might wonder how it is that I teach myself to see wholeness where I now see separation.
This is answered in the Course as well.
In T-25.I, Jesus says this:
It is the Holy Spirit’s function to teach you how this oneness is experienced, what you must do that it can be experienced, and where you should go to do it.
I had a strange dream the other night and woke from it in the early morning hours. I knew it was significant, but didn’t understand the symbolism.
In that half-awake state, I asked the Holy Spirit what He wanted me to know about this dream. I asked Him what it was about. What I received was just a snapshot of the face of someone I held a grievance against.
I understood immediately that this is someone who irritates me and that irritation is like an imaginary wall I built between us to keep us apart.
I thought about her and realized that I could not find love for her in my heart. I explained the problem to the Holy Spirit and asked that He purify my mind so that I could love this one. Then I fell back to sleep. When I woke the next morning, the grievance was gone, and even better, I felt love for this person.
When next I saw her, I felt such affection that I could not recall the previous feelings. I could remember having them, but was not able to bring those feelings back up to my awareness. It was a miracle and it was a perfect example of the Holy Spirit teaching me how oneness is experienced.
My part is to want the experience of oneness, to desire it above being right, above being separate and special.
The stronger my desire, the faster the purification process proceeds.
I allow my mind to be healed and my Self is revealed to me.
It is so simple and straightforward that the ego overlooks it altogether. But I am not my ego and I have a choice to listen to the ego or not to listen to the ego. Above all else, I want the peace of God and to have the peace of God I choose to allow the ego to be undone and to accept my Self as I was created.
Why would I want anything else when only Love is real?